I’ve had it in my head for a little while now to write about this. I’ve hesitated because I don’t want it to sound accusatory or generalizing. Every situation and every person is unique. What I’ve found though is that sometimes things need to be put out there cause they happened. And when they happenedContinue reading “Mary”
Author Archives: thelmablack
Mama Black Widow
One of my favorite books is a sordid drama not for those interested in feel good themes. Mama Black Widow by Iceberg Slim (1969)is the tale of drag queen Otis Tilson and his family’s struggles in Mississippi and Chicago over the span of 40 years or so. The book at surface reads as a badContinue reading “Mama Black Widow”
The grownup kid
The older I get, the more I realize how much of my foundation is in my childhood. Those first experiences of life stick with you with an intensity far greater than the day to day as an adult. It was when you learned that there were things that were wrong with you. It’s when youContinue reading “The grownup kid”
Pride
The word pride evokes so many emotions. It can be a noun, an adjective and also a verb. Pride is a must for any and all oppressed peoples for no other purpose than a rebuttal to the edict of self hate that oppression produces. Pride has also been castigated in some instances as something thatContinue reading “Pride”
Size 13 shoes
There’s a tragedy when you hate parts of yourself but especially when you hate what those parts of yourself mean for the struggles you’ll face in life. For me, it’s my big ass beautiful feet whom I appreciate for their strength , for their capabilities, for carrying my large frame to and fro, aching ,tiredContinue reading “Size 13 shoes”
Compliance
It’s challenging hell damn near impossible to escape this C shit. As we near like 17 months of this bullshit, I have to applaud humanity’s will to exist and function amongst and within fuckery. Because it is so broad and contentious and emotional a subject I will only speak about one aspect of this wholeContinue reading “Compliance”
Sula
Sula by Toni Morrison is one of my favorite books. I have a penchant and compassion for the bad ones. I don’t look to the Mother Theresas for inspiration as much as I look for the Sulas. Sula as the bad assed heroine of this novel moves about with a no fucks given attitude thatContinue reading “Sula”
Accepting Weirdness
I wonder if it takes a while to get to a place where you accept your weirdness. We all have those parts of our selves we hide away, the parts we wish weren’t there, the kinks and screws that keep you , you. For some of us, weirdness is your whole existence. In my caseContinue reading “Accepting Weirdness”
Rejection
You know, Rejection is one of those things in life that everyone apparently goes through. It is made into this fuel that is supposed to propel someone forward and inspiration for future endeavors. One is not supposed to ,according to conventional wisdom, give in to rejection but move against it and in spite of it.Continue reading “Rejection”
Footprints
We live this life we live Unknowingly and aware It don’t take long to figure out what you are As long as it takes who you are Wake up ,habitual, you know what 11 pm looks like way before you hit 3 Expectant though and totally blind to the footprints
Big Black Trans and Beautiful 